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How to Handle Master Manipulators
Dale Hartley MBA, Ph.D.
Resilience is coping with and enduring adversity. Why not gain strength and thrive?
This case study of my encounter with a manipulative couple illustrates how confusion, puzzlement, and sense of "having been had” are typical of encounters with High Machs.
"The amount of energy needed to refute bull**** is an order of magnitude bigger than to produce it."
An elderly couple is killed in their gated community. He is decapitated. She is dumped in a lake 6 miles away. No forced entry, and nothing is taken. Now the case has gone cold.
Going along to get along can minimize conflict and dispel cognitive dissonance. It can also produce dire consequences.
Salespeople and service technicians who make house calls know what lurks behind the closed doors of suburbia. And what tales they can tell!
In this case, the alleged killers are female, African-American, and one is a family member who was not slain, but who allegedly participated in the crime.
Just as he (or she) cons victims before abusing them, the predatory pedophile cons himself or herself as well. This leads to a sense of power and invulnerability.
How can celebrities know which stalkers are dangerous and which are merely pests?
Street hustlers target Crescent City tourists and conventioneers with scams both old and new.
Mothers who murder their children usually have one of these five motives.
Research has identified three types of fathers at high risk of killing their children.
Needless psychological distress can arise from avoiding and evading more mundane problems. "Every form of refuge has its price."
Choosing what's in our best interest is sometimes obvious, uncomplicated, straightforward—and wrong.
Intense analysis of the shooter's motives by The New York Times and other outlets misses the point.
The Incel movement exists because of difficulties in facing Erikson's fifth and sixth stages of psychosocial development.
Greed makes you gullible -- unless, of course, you are that way already.
As a boy, Freud hung a copy of the Declaration of Independence in his room and memorized the Gettysburg Address. As an adult, he came to loathe everything American.
Transactional analysis explains the current sex scandals as a series of games with established rules and well-defined roles for each participant.
Are master manipulators genetically programmed that way, or do they become Machiavellians over time?
A new NYPD police officer's allegedly violent conduct raises questions about the department's psychological screening of officer candidates.
Bad marketing sometimes snares the gullible, but most of us are savvy enough to avoid cons such as “eat all you want and still lose weight!” It’s the good marketing that lures us.
Like the Energizer bunny, she keeps going...and going
The Unit for the Study of Personality in Politics has developed a personality and leadership profile of Kim Jong Un.
And thus I clothe my naked villainy / With odd old ends stol'n forth of holy writ, / And seem a saint when most I play the devil. — Richard III
Who shoots up a workplace two years after being fired? Someone who is obsessed with that incident, who has ruminated about it, and fantasized about revenge.
You might expect master manipulators to exploit your weaknesses. To conceal their motives, they may need to exploit your strengths instead.
Three recent mass killings by suicidal gunmen reveal the deadly effects of individuals caught up in a catathymic crisis.
How to know when your personal boundaries are being crossed, and what to do about it.
Dale Hartley is an associate professor and chair of the humanities, fine arts, and social sciences division at West Virginia University, Parkersburg.