Modern Sex

Dating and mating in a complex world

Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGT

Is There Sex After Kids?

Do you feel like you’re living with a roommate instead of a romantic partner? You may need to shift your priorities.

3 Tips for Facing Conflict and Feeling Good About It

Can you imagine sitting with your partner, having a hard conversation, and feeling seen, heard, valued, and connected? It’s possible when you practice these communication skills.

Want Better Sex? Sometimes Simmering Is Hotter than Boiling

Do you want more from your sex life and intimacy? Slowing down might be just what you need to heat things up.

Owning It: Claiming Your Power in Your Relationship

You have much more power than you realize in your relationship. By doing the work to become more aware of yourself, you’ll discover you have more choices in how you participate.

3 Tips for Having More Sex

If there are issues in your relationship, they will show up when you have sex, too. It's important to deal with the issues that exist so you can create more connection.

They're Called Daddy Issues Because Your Dad Had Issues

Have you ever been told you have daddy issues and felt shame? It's time to recognize that there is nothing wrong with you.

5 Tips for Resolving Issues in Your Relationship

If you've been in toxic relationships in the past, you'll have wounds that need healing. You'll have been hurt. Learn to heal and remove those toxic habits with your partner.

Are You Being Too Critical in Your Relationship?

Learn how your attempts to control are keeping you from getting your needs met, and begin to loosen your grip.

Do You Avoid Being Vulnerable in Your Relationship?

Do you allow yourself to be vulnerable in your relationship? Start to notice how you're keeping yourself safe, and take steps toward more vulnerability and deeper connection.

Chaos-Free Conversations About Racism: Tips for White People

Helpful tips for talking to your loved ones about racism.

Are You Feeling Angry This Week?

Are you experiencing anger right now but aren't sure how to combat it?

Don't Ignore These Red Flags in Your Relationship

Are you afraid that you may be missing red flags in your relationship, but unsure what would qualify? Here are some signs that you want to look out for.

All Couples Fight: Learn to Do It Better

Tired of painful, damaging fights with your partner? Learn how to communicate during a fight in a way that builds trust and promotes a sense of safety between you.

5 Ways to Cope With Dating Fatigue

Is dating wearing you out? A few adjustments can go a long way.

Set Clear Boundaries and Stop Accepting Less Than You Deserve

Stop waiting for your needs to be met and step into your power.

3 Tips to Strengthen Listening and Communication Skills

Struggling to communicate with your partner? Learn the most important communication skill there is and how to get better at it.

Conquer Your Fear of Failure and Set Big Goals for 2020

It's time to get out of your own way and create the life you long for.

5 Ways the Most Successful Couples Hold Onto Their Passion

Not sure how to keep the romance alive? A few lifestyle changes can go a long way.

Tips for Sexual Wellness in 2018

What will you do to cultivate more sexual wellness this year?

How to Overcome Body Shame

Do you suffer from painful thoughts and feelings about your body? Start practicing new ways of relating to yourself to lessen shame and strengthen compassion for your body.

How Couples Can Use Criticism Constructively

Is criticism destructive in your relationship? Learn to have a conversation that leads to closeness instead.

Break Free From the Monotony of Online Dating

Is online dating bringing you down? Try pushing yourself further out of your comfort zone, and give yourself the gift of self-growth and new outcomes.

Too Much Self-Esteem May Be Keeping Millennials Single

If you're a Millennial, you may be more skilled at being alone than you are in relationships. Learn the relational skills you missed if you grew up during the self-esteem movement.

5 Ways Pole Dancing Can Improve Your Life

Pole dancing can help you celebrate your body just as you are right now. Give your inner critic a day off!

Single and Frustrated? You May be Too Judgmental

Your judgmental thoughts may be in the way of getting to know people and connecting with them. If you're single and frustrated, it's time to get out of your own way.

5 Tips for Dating Someone Who Struggles With Depression

It’s painful to watch someone you care about suffer. Learn how to support your partner in their suffering, and foster connection and closeness.

Orgasms: From Solo Sex to Partnered Sex

Can you orgasm when you masturbate, but not during partnered sex? Strengthening skills while masturbating can help you have orgasms during partnered sex too.

How You Can Tell You're Ready to Sleep With Someone New

Throw away the books of rules, and stop asking others for advice. It's time to learn how to turn toward yourself for the answers, as you are your own best dating and mating guide.

Dating Burnout in the Fast-Paced Times of Tinder

Are you feeling overwhelmed by the never-ending flow of new matches, and fast pace of the dating app scene? Learn to avoid burnout and make the most out of dating apps.