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Erin Leonard Ph.D.
A narcissist treats acquaintances like gold & a partner with disdain. It's common for him to put more energy into fluffing his own image than quality interactions with a loved one.
The hero/victim defense creates an altered reality in which a partner is constantly "innocent" and "honorable" despite their manipulative and unkind behavior.
A partner who accuses you of being insecure may be the one with deep and hidden insecurities.
The difference between an empathic approach and a sympathetic response may determine the amount of grit a child brings to the table in life.
There is an understandable psychological explanation for remaining in a painful relationship and it may not have anything to do with love. Understanding the dynamic may be freeing.
Involvement with a partner who shames, dismisses, and punishes a person for expressing a feeling he or she does not like may cause self-doubt.
Understanding these manipulative tactics can help detect a narcissistic partner.
If small disagreements end in epic battles and your feelings are constantly disregarded, you may be involved with a person who lacks emotional intelligence.
Swaying from the hero who is going to save the day to the most broken individual allows a person to evade accountability and fuel his or her own ego.
A partner who suddenly abandons the relationship may lack the ability to sustain closeness.
It may be easier for a partner who struggles with closeness to unplug and reset with a new person. Going through the motions of getting close may be less taxing than sustaining it.
People pleasers are terrified they will be rejected and excluded by friends, and consumed with worry about disappointing others.
4 strategies help transform a flirty rapport into a deep and lasting connection.
Although a narcissist and a people-pleaser may act differently in relationships, they may have something in common: a parent who could not deal with their feelings.
Understanding the inner world of a teen provides a parent with insight and the tools to help.
Knowing what to say to help a friend in crisis is critical. Yet, some friends seem to get angry when you try to help. Several strategies help a person deal with both scenarios.
Using anxiety as a barometer to gauge mental health may not be accurate. Distinguish mental health from emotional health and understand how and when you experience anxiety.
A narcissist often won't show his or her true colors until a partner is invested. But one trait may shed light on a person's character: The inability to resolve conflict peacefully.
Setting boundaries is tricky, especially for a people-pleaser. These 5 simple tactics can help.
4 tips to help a partner put their empathy into words.
Having a secure attachment style does not always mean that a person feels secure.
Relationship anxiety is painful and confusing. But understanding where the anxiety comes from can help.
A person who constantly poses as either the hero or the victim is someone who leverages a good deed to gain control and poses as a victim to evade accountability.
"When things are good, they are great, but when they are bad, they are very bad" is a sentiment I have heard from many couples who struggle with conflict resolution. Find out why.
Food is warm, appealing, and comforting. It closely resembles love. A tendency to overeat may indicate a hunger for emotional sustenance.
Four techniques prepare a parent to assist a child with the anxiety that is overarching today.
Diving into a new relationship headfirst can be tempting, but these 10 signs can help you decipher if the love will last.
Three tendencies clarify mild and fairly harmless narcissistic tendencies from full-blown narcissism.
There are two questions a parent can ask an adolescent to quickly assess the status of his or her self-esteem.
A partner who was once loving is now disinterested, aloof, and self-serving. What may be revealed by this change in demeanor and temperament?
Erin Leonard, Ph.D. is a practicing psychotherapist and the author of three books about relationships and parenting.