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The fantasy approach to love — the overpromising notion that love is “the answer” — tends to lead to disappointment and relationship collapse.
Human cognitive biases tempt us to believe in acupuncture, despite the lack of scientific evidence that it works.
Take 10 or 15 minute daily walk past trees and flowers for a mentally and physically soothing nature bath.
Wisdom takes time, and taking a break before answering lets you to take advantage of your brain’s “default mode," which more often leads to “Eureka!”
Envy is mistakenly assumed to be ugly and shameful, but it can be a powerful—and positive—motivational tool.
The idea of the “lone genius” is a myth. Understanding how collaboration makes us vastly better allows us to achieve to the best of our ability—and maybe even better than that.
You’re more likely to start and maintain good habits if you build them into your world in ways that make them physically difficult to ignore.
Understanding sleep myths is the best start to getting a solid night's sleep so you can function at your physical and emotional best.
We think of assertiveness as standing up for ourselves. But it also involves saying kind, generous, warm things that need to be said.
We choose who we are by choosing who our friends are. Our friends’ values and character are hidden influences on our own.
If you lack confidence, you don't have to accept that as your fate. Becoming confident is a process that anyone can choose to do.
Keeping the spark in your relationship requires regular small gestures, not occasional grand ones.
You CAN get writing done now and even be very productive. You just need to take advantage of our evolved need for community for about 5 minutes before starting your writing.
If you're successful, you can protect yourself against workplace sabotage by shining a light on your failures as well as your successes.
An easy exercise to alleviate the separation anxiety dogs experience when we have to leave them.
It isn’t grand gestures that keep a relationship alive. It’s being present for your partner in tiny, mundane ways throughout the day.
Tweak your habits using an ADHD hack: Habits you want are more likely to become habits you have if they’re easy and even fun.
Runaway empathy is toxic and harms us and the people we care about. Learn to shift from toxic, overwhelming empathic distress into healthy empathic concern.
5 steps to help you break up with perfectionism and embrace learning and growth.
The secret about writer’s block is that it’s an indulgence—one you can refuse to give in to: “Plumbers don’t have plumber’s block. A page a day is a book a year.”
We typically let our feelings direct our behavior. But starting and maintaining good habits takes being more like a machine—ignoring our feelings and doing what needs to be done.
Don’t dread relationship conflict. Borrow from a mediator’s tool chest to disagree amicably and use conflict for a happier, more bonded relationship.
How to stop fear from being the boss of you: Small acts of everyday courage are the key to developing confidence.
Amy Alkon is the author of the award-winning, science-based syndicated column, The Science Advice Goddess, and science-based books. She is also a mediator.