Why relaxing is so much work.
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Understandings of Self, Awareness, and Mental Health in an Ever-Changing World
Samantha Smithstein Psy.D.
Shame is debilitating and can lead to mental illness, addiction, isolation, and death. This is why pride is so important.
Advice to parents of newly out nonbinary youth and young adults from someone who has been there.
If we want to create a world where love and respect are the norms, we need to start now.
We have the opportunity to either escape from or show up for this life. Which one will you choose?
What happens when life forces us to choose between two “wrongs,” or bad situations, either one compromising our core values, obligations, and commitments?
How do we wind our way through the collective loss and grief we are experiencing?
To this day, I still think about what happened that evening with the pacifier, no matter how small it may seem.
When we were growing up, we absorbed a lot of information from our environment about how we needed to be in order to feel loved.
When my only child moved to California, I was not thrilled.
“As my heart raced and cortisol shot through my veins, the only thing I could think of was, 'Damn, I need a drink,'” she wrote.
If the goal is a loving community, sustainability, and respect for all people and nature, then we must choose a path that includes all of us.
The only way forward is with each other.
We insist that disability and death is something that happens to others, not us.
In the United States, our incarceration rate is the highest in the world. What is happening to all those people during the pandemic?
How do we cope when the rhythm of yesterday has become a bunch of questions of today? We return to our values and passions.
Time is a precious resource: Spend it well. It’s up to you to decide what that looks like.
We long to feel safe, but following one’s heart is often filled with risk, contradiction, and loss.
We all have ways we try to avoid the discomfort of this human experience. What happens if we show up instead?
In the Torah, when Jonah was called to head east and be a prophet, instead of listening he fled in the opposite direction.
There isn't any reason long-term co-parenting relationships can't be as wonderful as post-divorce unions. Here are some lessons from those who are trying a second time.
What if we didn't enter a relationship from a place of need, but instead from a desire for discovery?
Guest writer Simone Silver hired someone to kidnap her daughter. It was one of the best (and most difficult) decisions she has made as a parent.
We create partnership and companionship. We fall in love. And we do so in the face of inevitable loss, aloneness, grief, and emptiness.
True dialogue between us, whether between individuals, groups, cultures, or countries, is one of the only things that actually leads to that desired change.
To really recover from toxic masculinity, one must admit that they are sick. I had to admit that I was very sick, then I had to do the work to get well.
Could kink give us understanding and a way to play with choice, surrender, power, and empowerment and even create avenues for healing from trauma?
Six years ago a woman accused me of rape.
What if we spent our effort getting to know, deeply, who this other person is and what their life is about, and love was about supporting that, even if it takes them away from us?
It is so important at times like these to step back and think about how people come to the point of acting out in hate against one another.
One of the biggest issues to plague the couples I see in my practice is the tension between what is happening and what is wanted.
Samantha Smithstein, Psy.D., is a psychologist in private practice in San Francisco. She works with couples and individuals, specializing in intimacy, sexuality, and self-realization.